Hi everyone,

I'm considering seeing a sex therapist to address some personal concerns and improve my relationship. I’ve never worked with a therapist before, so I’m not sure where to start. Can anyone share their experiences with finding a qualified and trustworthy sex therapist?

What should I look for in a professional, and how do I ensure they are a good fit for my needs? Any suggestions on how to approach the first session or things I should know before starting therapy would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks in advance for any advice!

Hi there,

It’s great that you're considering therapy, and I can understand how it can feel like a big step. When looking for a qualified sex therapist, check their credentials—make sure they are licensed and have specialized training in sex therapy, such as certification from the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT). A good therapist should be empathetic, and non-judgmental, and create a safe space for open communication.

If you're also curious about things to do sexually that can help improve intimacy in your relationship, a therapist can guide you through healthy ways to explore this, if it’s part of your goals. For the first session, it’s okay to feel nervous but remember that it’s about creating trust. You can ask about their approach, experience, and how they’ll work with you. Be open about your goals, and don’t hesitate to ask if you’re comfortable with their style. It’s important to feel heard and supported.